Who are we kidding? It’s become normal for us to go it alone as moms. So normal that for many of us our isolated motherhood registers as: nothing amiss.
There isn’t a grandma to pick them up from school and feed them dinner, when work held you late?
“Ah, normal. Motherhood is overwhelm.”
There isn’t an auntie who’s watching your daughter’s growth towards young womanhood as closely as you are… and who, when the perfect casual moment arose last week, giddily taught your girl about tampons vs. pads? And maybe dropped in a line about how sexual pleasure isn’t just for boys?
“Of course not. Totally normal. You’re alone in this.”
Can you feel and hear the toxicity in the assumption that we, as mothers (and hello, as women) have to ‘go it alone’? So many of us were taught that we’re ‘better’ and ‘stronger’ mothers if we can handle the situation on our own.
It can sneak its way into our nervous systems insidiously. Well, how else would I mother?
If we sound exasperated, that’s cause we are (and lovingly so).
Today, on the blog we’re talking about re-orienting ourselves to the real normal of mothering in community, and how this nourishes not only a mother, but is essential to a daughter’s growth. We get practical about how to form community (whether you’re just starting out and feel hella isolated, or you’ve got a powerful circle of women — you’re just looking for new ideas).
Click the video below to watch.
Once you’ve gotten a chance to check out the video, leave a comment below — because collective wisdom rocks, and we want to hear your take. We need each other, mama.
Sil & Eliza