Hi, mom — welcome. I’m Sil.

I’m a mother, a mother-daughter coach, a best-selling author, a workshop facilitator, and what lights me up the most is teaching mothers like you how to get smart and up your mothering game. You deserve to be supported.

I’m here to help you go from overwhelmed to feeling calm and confident raising your preteen or teen daughter. I’m the mother half of the mother-daughter dynamic duo who created Mothering & Daughtering almost 15 years ago.

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Tell me — does this sound like you?

You struggle to connect regularly with your daughter — she doesn’t share with you like she used to about what’s going on with her life.

You’re feeling lost and ineffective with your parenting strategies — what you used to do so well to connect with her when she was a kid isn’t working anymore — now you’re more likely to get a shut door, a lit-up cell phone screen or a one word answer: “fine.”

Your daughter has started to give you ‘tude — AKA eye rolls or rudeness, or just seeming to be judgemental of you. It doesn’t feel like your daughter really likes you these days. Ouch.

You’re soooo tired of grumpy fights with her — conflict seems like the new normal all of a sudden — whether it’s about the cell phone boundaries before dinner, the outfit she wants to wear to school, or the two of you spending time together.

You’re worried she’s stressed and struggling more than she lets on — you know that: school is a lot, being a teen girl is a lot, having a social life in a digital age is a lot… and when you try to reach out to support her, she usually shuts down.

Oh, also, you’re busy. Just being on this page is taking up what feels like borrowed time. But you’re tired of feeling ineffective with your mothering — and Googling ‘how to communicate with your teen’ at midnight with your last drop of energy isn’t cutting it anymore. You’re ready to get some real support.

And, most of all, this one:

You’re afraid you’re losing your connection with
your preteen or teen daughter… or feel like you already have.

You remember that somewhere along the line you were warned about having a teen daughter. At some point, someone (maybe it was your friend, or your therapist, or your own mom) told you: “You just have survive it: the eye rolls, the slammed doors, the attitude, and then maybe one day, if you’re lucky, when your daughter’s an adult, she’ll actually want to talk to you again.” You know, something to that gist.

But you keep wondering… isn’t there a better way?

“If these challenges [between mother and daughter] are a generational thing, Sil has certainly broken the pattern with her own daughter.”

— Jane Fonda
You want connecting with your daughter to be... easy.

You want your daughter to know that she’s safe with you.

You want her to come to you to Share what’s on her heart.

You want to feel like you can Trust her and the decisions she makes.

You want to raise an amazing young woman who knows and LOVES herself.

You want to know how to handle complex communication situations with Finesse.

You want to feel confident and effective, like you know what you’re doing with this whole mothering a preteen or teen girl thing.

You want mothering to be meaningful, creative, interesting…
and actually joyful!

“Sil and Eliza offer a profound new understanding of the bond between mothers and daughters. Their work sets up mothers and daughters for a lifetime of health and happiness.”

— Dr. Christiane Northrup

Here’s where I come in — I support you to:

Talk and connect daily with your daughter.

  • Learn your daughter’s language of connection and become a teen communication expert
  • Rebuild trust in your evolving relationship so that she feels safe naturally coming to you to share and receive support
  • Set boundaries around rudeness so that love can flourish

Turn conflict into open-hearted connection.

  • Reframe your old conflict patterns that often result in painful disconnect and instead learn tools for effective conflict so that it can be an opportunity for connection
  • Stop taking your daughter’s resistance and healthy
    emotions personally, and be the mindful, grounded adult you both need in the situation

Reclaim your confidence as a mother.

  • Treat yourself with loving kindness and have your own back when you’re a (perfectly) imperfect mother
  • Grow your teen relationship tools to handle even the most complex communication situations from your calm center
  • Deepen your understanding of our current cultural craziness about parenting/raising teen girls, and get hip to trusting yourself and your mother’s intuition to raise your girl in a way that works for you both

Feel invigorated by raising your preteen or teen daughter.

  • Become an expert in your daughter’s developmental psychology so that you understand what is healthy and appropriate, and can roll with it without fear
  • Allow your mothering of her to be a spiritual path: yes, full of opportunities for growth, connection, meaning and mindfulness with yourself and others
  • Go from ‘mothering on empty’ to ‘mothering on full’ by finally learning key practices to be more kind to yourself and put yourself first when it matters

Thrive in your relationship with your preteen or teen daughter.

  • Shift your mothering connection strategies to meet the developmental needs of a preteen or teen (hint: what you did when she was a kid probably won’t work).
  • Trust that it’s totally possible (and actually normal in most cultures) to be close and connected with your preteen or teen daughter — just in a new way than before.
I know this because I was you. 
I started this work because I desperately needed it.

Meet my kick-ass co-founder — my daughter Eliza.

We’re a real mother-daughter duo who got determined to do it differently. You see, like you, we struggled; in fact, pretty much every mother and daughter we knew struggled to connect in the teen years.

I had a really difficult relationship with my mom when I was a teen: we stopped connecting, and stopped talking. It was awful.

When Eliza became a preteen and teen — and the eye rolls, frosty silence, and frustrated ‘mommmmmm’ angst began — I (1) panicked, and then (2) got real about it, and knew I had to do something differently. Eliza & I healed, and we’ve taught about about it for almost 15 years. Together.

“What Sil and Eliza teach mothers and daughters is profound, essential and revolutionary.”

— Geneen Roth

Our Approach

Mothering & Daughtering (yup, that’s our community, our business, our school) was born out of our need for an approach to mother-daughter relationships during the preteen and teen years that values heart over discipline.

Research actually shows that conflict and behavior are most effectively addressed by strengthening the mother-daughter bond, aka our healthy attachment to each other. We have a radical belief: it’s totally possible for mothers and daughters to be close — even and especially during the preteen and teen years.

Along the way (and that’s almost 15 years now of working together), we wrote a best-selling book for mothers and teen daughters, we’ve taught thousands of mothers and daughters in live sold-out workshops across the country, and we created the Mothering Course (an online video-based experience for busy moms of preteen and teen daughters).

If you’re a busy mother who wants a real, soulful relationship with her preteen or teen daughter, you’re in the right place.

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We're also students
(and we want you to join us)

As cis, white women descended from European colonizers we’ve got a lot to learn. We invite you, especially the white women in our community, to join us as students in becoming actively anti-racist.

Here are some of our current teachers:

Desiree Adaway is a consultant, trainer, coach and speaker building resilient, equitable, and inclusive organizations. She’s the Principal of The Adaway Group, which is a black woman owned consulting firm that brings together multi-racial teams to work on projects related to equity, inclusion and social justice.

Leesa Renee Hall is an author, storyteller, social historian, playwright, and creative word artist. Using the art of self-inquiry, she creates questions to help highly sensitive introverted leaders unpack their unconscious biases so they can be effective leaders in an increasingly diverse world. Sil also had the honor of interviewing her for We Thrive TV all about motherlines, healing and ancestry.

adrienne maree brown is author of Emergent Strategy: Shaping Change, Changing Worlds and the co-editor of Octavia’s Brood: Science Fiction from Social Justice Movements. She is a writer, social justice facilitator, pleasure activist, healer and doula living in Detroit.

“Girls and their moms will find comfort and companionship from two people who are themselves walking the path of the often complex mother-daughter dynamic — and who offer strategies and wisdom that will help all of us become more aware, authentic mothers and daughters.”

— Rachel Simmons
author of Enough As She Is
Looking for a next step?
Let’s connect in these ways:

Does it feel like your daughter is pushing you away?

Learn how to actually get closer in the preteen or teen years (just in a new way) with this free audio from Sil & Eliza.

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what if connecting could be… easy?

Check out The Mothering Course to learn specific strategies and communication techniques.

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Want inspiring interviews?

Check out our bi-weekly video blog, We Thrive TV, where Sil brings on savvy guests to answer your burning questions.

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Ready to be the most confident mom you know?

Check out my 1:1 Coaching packages and get me, the Mothering Coach, in your corner.

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“Eliza and Sil Reynolds are a model for us all of shared, intergenerational leadership and the power of courageous communication.”

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Sil Reynolds

Sil Reynolds is a mother and a mothering expert. She is the co-author of “Mothering and Daughtering: Keeping Your Bond Strong Through the Teen Years”, and the co-host of We Thrive TV with her daughter Eliza. The mother-daughter duo have taught sold-out workshops nation-wide for thousands of mothers and their preteen and teen daughters for the past 10 years.

On her own, Sil brings 30 years as a Family Nurse Practitioner and psychotherapist to her current work as a one-on-one mother-daughter coach. She was a senior student of renowned Jungian analyst Marion Woodman. As a specialist in eating disorders and body image, she’s taught Geneen Roth’s Breaking Free from Emotional Eating workshops. She’s on the faculty of Multiversity, and the Esalen and Omega institutes. But the crown jewel in her resume is, of course, her daughter Eliza. Fun fact: Sil brought the first yoga class ever to Brown University as an undergrad, as Eliza calls it, this = awesome hippie lady status. Find out more and learn how to turn conflict into open-hearted connection at motheringanddaughtering.com.

Eliza Reynolds

Eliza Reynolds is the professional daughter with the inside scoop and a champion for preteen and teenage girls living full lives. An expert on mother-daughter relationships, she’s been coaching preteen and teen girls to connect with their mothers, and with themselves, since she was a teen herself.

Together with her own mother, Sil, Eliza is the co-author of “Mothering and Daughtering: Keeping Your Bond Strong Through the Teen Years,” (she wrote the sassy side) and the co-host of We Thrive TV. The mother-daughter duo have taught sold-out workshops nation-wide for thousands of mothers and their preteen and teen daughters for the past 10 years.

On her own, Eliza has her undergraduate degree from Brown University, was trained as a sex educator for Planned Parenthood, and was a consultant for Eve Ensler, (“Vagina Monologues,”) on her book for teenage girls: “I Am an Emotional Creature.” Find out more and learn how to turn conflict into open-hearted connection at motheringanddaughtering.com.