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We’ve got cool news for you about your daughter.

Your preteen or teen daughter actually
wants and needs you to be more connected, not less.

(We promise, we asked her, ­­well, a lot of girls her age.)

But she also wants you to connect in a different way.

Even if she doesn’t know how to say it.

Welcome to a new approach to mother­-daughter relationships,

where thriving, not just surviving,

is the new normal.

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It’s time to rewrite the story we’ve been taught about mother daughter relationships in the preteen and teen years.

The story that goes…

I’m going to lose her.
We’re going to stop talking.
I hear teen girls are awful… (crazy, mean, selfish terrors).
Maybe if I survive the teen years with her… things will get better after?

It’s time for the new story: connection is natural. You see, we’re creatures of attachment, and our brains and bodies are hardwired for love.

Which means that nature is on your side.

Your daughter actually wants and needs you to be connected during the teen (and preteen) years, more than ever, just in a different way.

Through the generations though, we may have forgotten how to connect. It’s time to remember what comes naturally… relationships!

Yes, you got this.

We got you.

It’s time to trust yourself.

What’s Mothering & Daughtering?

Mothering is raising your daughter to become herself.

Daughtering is being active in your relationship.

It’s healing the matriline.

It’s passing along healthy body image.

It’s social media boundaries.

It’s using conflict as an opportunity to connect.

It’s choosing to thrive and not just survive.


Our work (and this site) is devoted to giving you, mom, the resources, inspiration and community you need to thrive and not just survive with your preteen and teen daughter.

Hi, We're Sil & Eliza,

a mother-daughter dynamic duo, co­authors, and workshop leaders for mothers and their preteen and teen daughters for the past 10 years.

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How to Turn Conflict Into Open-Hearted Connection

(And How To Come Out Of It Closer Than Ever)

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Your daughter is changing,

and you’re going to have conflict.

Here’s the good news (really): it’s not a bad sign. There’s a golden opportunity in each argument, stress meltdown, and misunderstanding.

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What They're Saying:


If these challenges [between mother and daughter] are a generational thing, Sil has surely broken the pattern with her own daughter.


-Jane Fonda

actor and author of "My Life So Far"


Sil and Eliza’s work is a lifeline to mothers and daughters who want to move through the teen years with a real, a loving, and a lasting relationship.


-Elizabeth Lesser

Best-selling author of "Broken Open" and "Marrow"


Sil and Eliza offer a profound new understanding of the bond between mothers and daughters. Their work sets up mothers and daughters for a lifetime of health and happiness.


-Christiane Northrup, MD

NYTimes Best-Selling author of "Women’s Bodies, Women’s Wisdom" and "Mother-Daughter Wisdom"


Sil and Eliza bring the depth of soul to their work with mothers and daughters because they have found that in their own relationship.


-Marion Woodman

Marion Woodman, Jungian analyst and author of "Addiction to Perfection" and "Conscious Femininity"


What Sil and Eliza Reynolds teach mothers and their teenage daughters is profound, essential and revolutionary.


-Geneen Roth

# 1 New York Times bestselling author of "Women, Food and God"


Eliza and Sil Reynolds are a model for us all of shared, intergenerational leadership and the power of courageous communication.


-Courtney E. Martin

Author of "Perfect Girls, Starving Daughters" and "Do It Anyway"

What Mothers and Daughters are Saying