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How to Get Your Daughter to Talk to You


How are you doing with getting your daughter to talk to you?

I mean…

Does she naturally come to you with what’s on her heart?

With what’s happening at school? Or with who sent that risqué Snapchat last night?

Or does it more feel like… trying to get a closed clam to talk to you.

You’re getting nada.

A mama in our community, Carrie, wrote to me last month. Her 13-year-old daughter has started calling her “controlling” and is newly spending all of her time in her room (or it feels like that to Carrie least). Carrie wrote me that she’s starting to feel like a failed mom.

And I knew we had to nip that one in the bud! You see, Carrie isn’t the only one who’s written to me with this question. It’s on the hearts of so many of my coaching clients these days. It’s in the letters I get from moms every week.

So I called in my ace. My own kick-ass daughter, Eliza! She’s the genius who inspired me to start Mothering & Daughtering. She walks into a room and teen girls sit up and listen — and more importantly they choose to show up to their relationships and start talking! So I brought her on for this epic interview, so that she can wise talk us mamas at the start of the new year. You ready? It’s so good.


Click the video below to watch.

You might not be super struggling with getting your daughter to talk with you? Awesome. Eliza gives such big re-frames on the mother-daughter relationship that I want to nudge you to watch it anyways: this episode is such a rich opportunity to go even deeper.

Once you’ve gotten a chance to check out the video, leave a comment below — 

“Which of Eliza’s action steps spoke to you most? And how can you implement it this week?”

— because collective wisdom rocks,
and we want to hear your take.

We need each other.



P.S. Share this video with a mama who wants to get talking with her daughter. Because sharing is caring, and everyone could use a stronger bond.

Hi, We’re Sil & Eliza!

The mother-daughter dynamic duo behind Mothering & Daughtering. We’re downright devoted to you thriving not just surviving with your daughter during the preteen, teen years and beyond.

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