My interview with Eliza in January was one of your faves ever.
You’ve told me in coaching calls, in person, in Facebook messages, in blog comments…
I was smart to start a business with her, right? đ
She knows how to lay out the real useful steps for us mamas.
SO: I BROUGHT HER BACK!
Not just for this episode, but for our next episode too, in two weeks —
It’s back-to-back ELIZA.
She’s the Daughtering expert: serving up the realness for you, [First Name], and sharing her experience working with thousands of preteen and teenage girls (who happen to be, we promise, quite similar to your own precious girl). She’s got the inside scoop.
Today we’re talking guilt + shame. “Ooooh fun!” you say?
No, seriously, listen. What mother doesn’t have something she wishes she’d done differently?
Is there a moment when you feel like you truly f*cked up as a mother?
It could be last week when you yelled at your kid.
It could be last year when you shared a story your daughter had confided in you with your friend, and it got around, and you felt like you had broken her new preteen trust in you.
It could be when you got divorced from your daughter’s father when she was 5.
We carry these moments with us. We nurture the guilt. We keep the shame silent.
You ready to know what to do with these moments?
Click the video below to watch.
https://vimeo.com/262395921/17c901ea31
Once youâve gotten a chance to check out the video, leave a comment below.
How can you be accountable and self-compassionate instead of moving into shame and silence when you feel like you ‘messed up’?
— because collective wisdom rocks,
and we want to hear your take.
We need each other, Mama.
Love,
Sil
P.S. Forward this video to a mama who’s ready to turn over a new leaf. Because sharing is caring, and everyone could use a stronger bond
Hey Sil and Eliza,
This episode couldnât have come at a better time. I can relate so much to Maryâs letter. I donât yet know if I will be where Mary finds herself, but the fear of it ways heavily on how Iâm managing my own situation. Anticipating the guilt and remorse (and probably shame) for things that havenât even happened yet can be paralyzing. I feel encouraged that I am on a solid path already. I have an amazing tribe that supports me. I am so grateful. And I feel like Iâm doing okay with accountability in the moment – though probably taking on too much overall. The self-compassion piece needs some work. Itâs popped up in other places recently too. I need more self-compassion. We all need more self-compassion. Iâm going to focus some energy in that direction for myself. Thank you Eliza – so great to see you – your perspective is invaluable. And thank you Sil – for all you do. â¤ď¸â¤ď¸â¤ď¸ Jessica
I’m finally giving myself the gift of watching this video and having seen it, think that maybe I wasn’t ready to take it in last week. I was feeling guilt and shame for decisions made and not made at work and people’s reactions to them, even when they weren’t my decisions in the first place! This video has given me the insight that I can be accountable and self-compassionate in these public spaces. I’ll have many chances to practice. This re-frame is truly a gift today.
Thank you Eliza and Sil!