We get asked this one a lot.
Technology + Mother-Daughter Relationships.
(Technology + any relationship for that matter).
How do I set boundaries with her?
What boundaries do I set?
How do I know she’s safe? (Like, heck, I don’t even understand most of these new apps).
I don’t want to be this awful mean mommy who doesn’t let her talk to her friends (am I being that? Is this “normal”?)… but DAMN, isn’t something weird up in here with her screen time?
Why do conversations about technology produce so many intense emotions (tears, frustration, temporary panics…)? It’s “just” a phone, hellloooo?
And the list goes on, and on, and on…
You feel us?
This is the first generation with technology at their fingertips from babyhood.
It’s a new (fun?) world out there.
Today, on the blog, we’re breaking down the myth of digital intimacy and getting real about our collective addiction to technology, so that we can (finally) set the boundaries we ALL need, for our sanity. Together, mamas.
Click the video below to watch.
Technology isn’t going anywhere, so it’s time for us to collectively figure out how to make it a tool for connection in our relationship– but not a replacement for real connection– (and not a tool for disconnect.)
Once you’ve gotten a chance to check out the video, leave us a comment below— because collective wisdom rocks, and we want to hear your take. We need each other, mama.
Grateful to have found your site and your wisdom! This topic is especially a challenge for me as I feel so overwhelmed by technology’s constant interruptions in my life, notice that my daughter feels much more comfortable and open when using technology rather than face-to-face (much like my husband), am having crazy dreams lately about her stumbling upon information that is inappropriate or terrifying, and am just torn in general as I work on our ever-changing relationship and new-found independence/love of makeup/need for privacy. I am juggling a busy life with her at 13, my son at 9, and my other son at 8 months, and I find it so easy to let her have her independence and freedom on technology as she has been so reliable and trustworthy. But, I feel guilt and worry as I feel out of touch with her. Thank you for your reassurances!
Hi Laura. Love hearing from you. You are not alone. Pretty much every mother I talk to is so overwhelmed by technology’s constant interruptions in her life and very worried about how technology is effecting her kid’s relationships, development and safety! We just filmed our online courses (they are being edited now!) and they will go on sale in January. We focus on this issue in more depth in our courses, because the digital world is here to stay and we need to have it work for us and our families!