It happens to all of us. We snap. We lose it. We take stuff personally.
Maybe she teased her sibling for the umpteenth time today and started a fight.
Or maybe work was hard for you today, you seem to be running perpetually late and taking care of everyone (including your boss)… and your temper was just a wee bit short when she asked to change her plans last minute and go to the mall instead.
Or maybe you’re just feeling grumpy today, and you’re wanting some extra love from your girl, and instead she chooses today of all days to flex her independence muscles and — from your perspective at least — push you away.
Oh, mama. It happens to all of us.
Let’s repeat that, just to make sure we all got it: IT HAPPENS TO ALL OF US. We all lose our cool sometimes at our daughter. Yes, even to mothering experts. 😉
Yes, a sigh of relief. Give yourself that. We’re all that imperfectly perfect.
So, it’s NOT about the goal of having moments like this never happen — but instead, what are we going to do once they HAVE happened? How are we going to repair when we’ve been oh-so human with our precious daughter.
That’s the topic of today’s episode. You ready?
Click the video below to watch.
This episode gets pretty specific, and we’d love to hear your thoughts:
How can you use the Pause Tool in your life?
Share your answer in the comments section below — because collective wisdom rocks, and we want to hear your take. We need each other, mama.
Love,
Sil & Eliza
Hi Ladies!
This is perfect for me. I mean I have a toddler but she can throw some ugly fits. When I was in my first trimester, her fits became just vicious. I became triggered and didn’t know how to handle the situation. In any case, I knew I had to figure this situation out quickly so that I could have a healthy pregnancy and still have a positive relationship with my daughter, which is something that I truly want. I bought myself a bracelet that says breathe, which is just a reminder to take some time out for myself.
I’m not at the end of my 2nd trimester and although my daughter still throws fits as all toddlers do, I’ve learned to just let it go. Even when I give her a time out, the time out is also for me to take some time to just breathe.
Today’s video spoke to me because of the phase I’m going through. I hope that can continue nurturing our relationship.
Hi Mirley! Thanks so much for sharing. I love how the toddler tantrum and the adolescent tantrum kind of match up and the mothering strategies for “weathering the storm” are so similar. Breathe. Don’t take it personally. Know that it is a phase. You are rockin’ this mama!