Mothering: (moth-er-ing); n. Raising your daughter to become herself. Daughtering: (daught-er-ing); n. Staying real with your mom.

Our new book, Mothering and Daughtering: Keeping Your Bond Strong Through the Teen Years, is out!

We are Sil and Eliza Reynolds, a mother and daughter team. In our workshops and writing together, we teach the radical notion that mothers and their daughters can not only survive the adolescent years, but also thrive in them. It has been our experience—in contrast to conventional wisdom—that preteen and teenage daughters actually want and need a close relationship with their mother.

What if teenage daughters could see their mothers as a great ally as they grew up and became independent? What if mothers could create safety for a teen daughter’s experience of herself, consciously guiding her to be who she was born to be? Join us on the journey to reclaim your mother-daughter bond for life! Order your copy today, or sign up to join us for the intensive Mothering & Daughtering workshop experience!

"What Sil and Eliza Reynolds teach mothers and their teenage daughters is profound, essential and revolutionary."

# 1 New York Times bestselling author of Women, Food and God

"If these challenges [between mother and daughter] are a generational thing, Sil has surely broken the pattern with her own daughter."

actor and author of My Life So Far

"Mothering and Daughtering has been deeply meaningful to us. Sil and Eliza have given us practical tools and wisdom that transformed our relationship and deepened our bond during the challenging teenage years. This beautifully written book is fresh with creative ideas and is a gift to all mothers and their teenage daughters."

"What you hold in your hands is more than a book--it’s a lifeline to mothers and daughters who want to move through the teen years with a real, loving, and lasting relationship. Both Sil and Eliza believe that as girls grow away from childhood and toward adulthood, they actually want and need to stay close to their mothers; and that mothers also want and need closeness, even as they help their girls find their own voice and spread their wings. In this guidebook for a new kind of mother-daughter relationship, Sil and Eliza challenge the stereotype of the broken bond between mother and daughter. They provide inspiration and tools honed from their own experience, and from the hundreds of moms and girls they have helped in their workshops. If you are a mother or a daughter who wants to navigate the teen years side-by-side, please read this book. "

Cofounder, Omega Institute and author of Broken Open: How Difficult Times Can Help Us Grow

""In this powerful book, Eliza and Sil Reynolds offer mothers and daughters the only kind of wisdom really worth giving--a reminder that the big secret to a resilient bond is nothing less than love. They're voices intermingle authentically and eloquently, a model for us all of shared, intergenerational leadership and the power of courageous communication.""

Author of Perfect Girls, Starving Daughters and Do It Anyway

"Mother-daughter conflict during the teen years is neither inevitable or healthy. There’s another way. Read this book and learn how to keep your mother-daughter bond strong and healthy for a lifetime."

author of Women’s Bodies, Women’s Wisdom and Mother-Daughter Wisdom

"Mothering & Daughtering is a gem, a precious insight into the growth of mothers and daughters, and into the honesty and cherishing of each other."

Jungian analyst and author of Addiction to Perfection

"What I love most about this book is how honest and down-to-earth Sil and Eliza are about themselves and their relationship. Girls and their moms will find comfort and companionship from two people who have themselves struggled -- and who offer strategies and wisdom that will help all of us become more aware, authentic mothers and daughters."

author of Odd Girl Out and The Curse of the Good Girl

"This book is a precious gem that I wish had been around for my daughters’ adolescence. Sil and Eliza give a timeless gift to mothers and daughters to help them deepen their love and understanding of each other before, during, and after adolescence. Moms who dread the thought of raising their daughters in their teen years will value this lifesaver of practical wisdom. Daughters who are in the midst of figuring out who they are separate from their mothers will appreciate Eliza’s advice on how to have a supportive relationship with their mothers without constant fighting. Even though my daughters are now wonderful women, I want to share this book with them and look forward to the conversations and new understandings that this book encourages."

editor New Moon Girls Magazine


Sil Reynolds

Dear Mothering & Daughtering community,

It is with a grieving heart that I write to you of the recent passing of Maya Gold, one of our beloved Daughtering assistants. Many of you had the privilege of knowing and being loved by her. Her quiet fierce heart, her humor and quick laugh, and the loving big sister she was to so many younger daughters. Maya will be sorely missed by our community, and Eliza and I ask you to join us in honoring and celebrating her life and all of the love that she gave to so many.

It is a loss we can only speak to with our hearts. My heart-- and as I know, each of your hearts-- goes out to our beloved Elise, Maya's mother and our precious Mothering assistant.

More information on Maya's obituary and formal services can be found here: http://www.copelandfhnp.com/obituaries/Maya-Gold/#!/Obituary. There is also an opportunity on the obituary page to write a memory or a loving message to the family, if you feel so moved to reach out. The family has also opened up funds to receive donations for causes that were near and dear to Maya's heart. These can be found on the obituary page as well. Please give if you feel so moved.

Deepest love,

Holding everyone closer than ever,


Photos from Sil Reynolds's post

Oct 5th 4:32pm • No Comments