This is a perfect time to strengthen your bond with your kids.
settingsA Virtual Village for Mamas in Changing Times:
Weekly Mothering Wisdom
Things are chaotic, you may have lost work.
Nothing is certain. We are in unknown territory.
Most of us have our kids home 24/7.
More is being asked of us as we mother right now.
We get depleted when we are kicked into overdrive and are mothering on empty.
The solution may be simpler than you might think-- the antidote is mirroring and containing, sprinkled with motherlove-- the same things your children need.
Sprinkled with Love from me, Sil, and the Sisterhood of mamas.
I am no longer doing the day-to-day mothering, so I sit with a particular capacity to offer that mothering energy, that mirroring and containing, to you.
Now is the time that we double down on the way that we love ourselves with fierce truth, so that our resilience shines, and sets the tone for our household.
By remembering Mothering fundamentals:
1. When we are resourced by sisterhood, we mother on full, not on empty.
2. When we do not take our kid’s behavior personally, we can mother from a non-reactive place.
3. When we have our child’s heart, no discipline is necessary. We- not their peers- are their primary attachment bond, and we parent from that place with a loving authority that creates safety and trust so they can grow into their best selves.
4. When our kid is peer-oriented, we can retrieve their heart back to the safety of our heart.
5. Mothering is like a martial-art: with practice we can find our center in the midst of chaos.
6. When we make mistakes, we can always repair ruptures and make the bond with our children stronger.
Sil Reynolds is a mother and a mothering expert. She is the co-author of “Mothering and Daughtering: Keeping Your Bond Strong Through the Teen Years”, and the co-host of We Thrive TV with her daughter Eliza. The mother-daughter duo have taught sold-out workshops nation-wide for thousands of mothers and their preteen and teen daughters for the past 15 years.
Sil brings 40 years as a nurse practitioner and therapist to her current work as a one-on-one mothering coach. She was a senior student of renowned Jungian analyst Marion Woodman. As a specialist in eating disorders and body image, she’s taught Geneen Roth’s Breaking Free from Emotional Eating workshops. She’s taught at Multiversity, and the Esalen, Omega, and Kripalu institutes. But the crown jewel in her resume is, of course, her daughter Eliza. Fun fact: Sil brought the first yoga class ever to Brown University as an undergrad, as Eliza calls it, this = awesome hippie lady status. Find out more and learn how to turn conflict into open-hearted connection at motheringanddaughtering.com.